Re-Union Family & Friends.

                           
                                                    RE-UNION FAMILY & FRIENDS.

A reunion with family and friends is when a group of people gather together to meet together again for a get-together to talk or party. This was a time when old stories can be retold and laughed about again and much reminiscing of past events and experiences can be told. It is such a nice feeling to be reacquainted and familarize yourself a new with the family &/or friends.

It is such a great feeling at the time of the occasion that when it ends you may be left with a vast array of emotion with past stories reconjuring your inner self. At the actual time of meeting sometimes we forget to take in all that is happening as our emotions run high or low with many influences, so much may be going on in such a short period of time, we might even forget to take a photo but at least we still have the memory in our brains, memories stay within us and that is a photo we cannot lose though sometimes we might forget.

Sometimes a reunion is at a time of grief when an accident or traumatic event has happened, and family and friends rally around, pulling together to make a positive difference to a difficult situation, in times like these it can be of great relief that so many caring people are surrounding a person to give what is needed in support at such a traumatic time, people showing empathy as well as bringing laughter to the fore, which is a great source of joy. The sometimes simple act of socialising can help alleviate problems and bring a ray of sunshine on what may seem otherwise dark times.

Friends have travelled far to comfort me at this time of need as they see they may be able to help me at this time of hardship. Although i do not feel especially welcoming at this time and do not think it important for me to go out to a restaurant pub or social club my friends who request my attendance and phone me a few times to reassure me of their well wishes. I do feel it more important that i am here in my home to support my family member who is ill and other members of the family who will be the greatest affected through this unfortunate time, and i feel that i should or need to be here with them at this time incase the crucial time strikes when i am needed most, i want to be there for my family.
When it is night and other family are heading off and family members are going to bed, although this maybe a time when an unfortunate event might happen i feel less needed and more able to cope with myself and the visiting of friends and socialising, and after one more phone call i am encouraged to head off out.

I am greeted at the bar entrance by the most beautifully friendly face of a friend who i have not seen for a long time and it is nice to see her welcoming persona, we exchange hugs and start chatting, then we are joined by another friend who greets me with his character, which is his personality a trait, most welcome at times which are difficultly hard, then we go in search of another girlfriend who is also here, but onroute bump into another friend who caringly grasps my hand and expresses there sympathy with the situation then i look for a very special friend who has travelled far and i have also longed to see and when we meet it is like we have never parted company at all, although many long months have past since we last met, it really feels like we were always next to each other. It feels comforting to have these friends around me, all wishing me well and caring for what events are going on in my life, and the times to come. We talk and chat with each other and find out what is and has been happening in each others lives, we have serious conversation at points and have laughter at some conversations, then it is decided that we must go dancing, clubbing, hip hopping, so we head off for another club. To be accompanied by these caring individuals who are acting as a social network of caring considerate selfless people is awesome. I am reassured at frequent intervals that a friend is there for me should i ever need to talk or infact need anything, these words are pleasant and comforting to me. In life sometimes we can make decisions and decide what road or path to take, but sometimes in the most awful circumstances there is no decision to make as fate and destiny have carved a route and it is an unfortunate unknown dark and sad traumatic discovery for us to endure. It is nice that the friends around me are concerned with my families well-being and care about what is going on in my life at the moment, it feels good to talk.

The concern shared with my friends has now resulted in us grooving and busting some moves on the dancefoor to banging tunes and momenterally i am caught in the trance of the dance, the nightclub is so loud with the music levels that talking is just about abandoned as the party dance therapy takes control and it is with my friends help that i allow myself to relax a little and feel less stressed out and enjoy them dancing and be encouraged to take part and dance along with them, thank you to the dancers who partner me onto the dancefoor, it feels good, such a good feeling, enjoyment. Wave your hands in the air, wave them like you just don't care, move to the rythym of the block rockin beat, that tooch is movin.

The booty shaking Ooow !

It is very difficult to remove ourselves from a traumatic time which involves a close family member but is often crucial so that we may be able to recharge our own batteries, it is important especially if friends & family are also taking time out for you to cope at this difficult time, and family and friends would think it a good idea for you to get out of the house and go socialising whether hill walking or clubbing, as they care about your wellbeing, but very often we as people are not feeling like enjoying ourselves at a time of crisis, the going out seems inappropriate and we would often avoid such events. But should we go out to a party with friends/family to places where normally these places would be attended with the intention of enjoyment, activities whatever they might be, maybe with music and dancing at a time of a crisis, it is most certain that you will feel that others who may not attend through illness, would wish you to attend such a get-together or party, to recieve emotional support and feel good with yourself, as the feel good factor comes at starting with yourself before others, although you might think this is selfish, you must take care of yourself, although you may feel needed and supportive of others that may be less fortunate, and some people would tell you that they get great satisfaction through helping others, so it may seem to go against the grain, but reassurance given that it is ok to have time to yourself and time spent with other people outside the circle of the everyday trauma lifestyle you are wrapped up in.

I have just meet up with my family as we are having a family crisis and current events seem to be very tough, sometimes events which are seen by others are not quite actually as they may seem, to be living with trauma or through a traumatic time is very much different than visiting the traumatized victims. I am meeting with the family members who i have not seen for such along time, although not through choice that i do not see them, some live quite far away, but then distance is not such an obstacles nowadays, with  planes trains and automobiles circumnavigating the globe, but then that is or was just how it is, life. It is such a welcome relief to see my family and absolutely fantastic to see the family i have not seen for such a long time, i spend precious time with them and enjoy every minute wishing if only all of life was such a happy eventful adventure. Whether we go out or stay in i have an inside feeling of contentment, and it is so needed since hard times hit, not just for myself but i know and feel the change and differance that the full family creates. I am more sure and relaxed with the whole family around me, it is much better a place, especially when the complete family are happily together. I enjoy a walk with a family member out to look at the countryside with hills and lochs, whilst talking about the history of Mary Queen of Scots as well as Shakespeare's MacBeth & MacDuff, with MacDuff Cross being explained, then we take to the woods and a wonderful view towards the castle and sea. Later i have much laughter with another member of the family as i tell stories and adventures with the family and enjoy the company and togetherness of a family unit. At some point we had very serious conversations but i felt that i could be open and truthful to the family about any subject they wished to talk about, i am not avoidant even though some subjects are difficult to talk about especially at this very difficult time, i am a sincere person and i felt that the family around me are genuine understanding and consoling as well as also being deeply affected by the traumatic events unfolding. Anyway it is nice to see family that holds such a special place in my inner heart and when it was time for them to leave it actually felt like the family had never left before at all and had actually always been here, weird strange feeling.

I do wish that events had not unfolded out like this, but i have no hold over life and it's mysterious ways.
We are lucky in life sometimes being able to make a choice, but then other times choices are not an option.
Some choices can be made but do we take into consideration of the then fate and destiny which awaits us, the ultimate rulers in the world, able to take some decisions out of our hands, and which can sometimes seem to be the real factors in life.